Category Archives: Spirituality

What Do Filing Taxes and Creating Your Own Reality Have in Common?

taxes  Inevitability.  Things that cannot be avoided.  No-choice-in-the-matter.  “Must-do’s”

  1. Death
  2. Taxes
  3. Breathing
  4. Creating your own reality

Okay…one of those four doesn’t really belong there.  After all, I’m told that not everyone pays their taxes.

But creating your own reality?  That’s unavoidable.  Your only choice in the matter is this:

Do it unintentionally

or

Do it intentionally

You’ve Always Been a Creator and Always Will Be (Whether You Read This Blog or Not)

Why do I write that?

Because quantum physics tells us that subatomic particles (the “legos” with which all physical matter are constructed) are not actually particles at all.  They are merely potential – until they are observed.

Your expectations command the potential of the quantum field of unformed particles to take a definitive, concrete form (called a “time-space event”). (Click that link to Tweet it)

And, since your beliefs create your expectations, it is accurate to say that your beliefs are creating your material reality.  And this has happened (and will happen) every single second you have been alive.  That is how human beings experience life on Earth.

What’s 3 Hours Out of 696,000 (Give or Take)?

So, given that you’re already creating your reality every moment of your life, why would you not choose to spend a few of the 696,000 (or so) hours you’ll have on Earth learning to create your reality more intentionally? (Click on that link to Tweet it)

All you need do is take control of your beliefs and you’ll be amazed at how much influence you have over the material reality you experience. (Click that link to Tweet it) There’s nothing “magic” or “new age” about it; that’s how the universe works.

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to more greatly align your life with your desires…

How to Solve The Number One Reason You’re Often Disappointed By Your Material Reality

Mirror_baby  Is your material reality a perfect mirror of what’s inside you?  Are your physical manifestations, your life experiences, a reflection of your insides?

Yes.

I know there is good reason to doubt that statement.  Yet, allow me to elaborate.

  1. The quantum field of unformed particles (which are not particles at all, but mere potential until they are observed) has the potential to become, literally, anything.
  2. The quantum field of unformed particles responds to your expectations and forms what you expect.
  3. Your beliefs are the wellspring for all your expectations.
  4. Thus, all of your life experiences are mirror images of your beliefs.  Thus, they are mirror images of what’s  inside you.

“Just the Facts, Ma’am”

I believe I know the number one obstacle to embracing these facts.  And I do use the term “facts” intentionally because quantum physics shows this all to us very plainly.  And quantum physics is the most reliable, accurate body of science ever created.

The obstacle?  For me, the main obstacle stems from all of the unwanted things I experience in my daily life.  Doesn’t embracing these facts mean, then, that I am creating all that unwanted stuff?  That I am “responsible” for all the things that I don’t like?

But I counter that there is no reason to be so hard on ourselves.  Who among us has beliefs which are perfectly aligned with our desires?

While You May Not Believe These Things, Specifically, Don’t They Sound (and Feel) Familiar?

For example, haven’t you (like me) been shown and taught, throughout your life that:

  • To be desirable, you must look like those (airbrushed) models on magazine covers?
  • Money is the root of all evil and it’s greedy and wrong to want (and have) more than you need?
  • You are unacceptably imperfect on many levels, thus how could anyone really accept you on a deep level (and how would you even be worth such acceptance)?
  • Making mistakes is wrong and often means you’re a failure?

Any of those beliefs sound familiar to you?  Need I go on?

Don’t Be Discouraged; Those Facts Hold Your Ticket to Freedom (Rather a Reason to Beat Yourself Up)

Of course we all hold beliefs similar to those.  And they were taught, or imparted, to us by well-intentioned authority figures.  Often not explicitly, but through their actions and attitudes.

So, knowing the facts about how your material world is created, is it any wonder that you (like me) have plenty of life experiences that don’t measure up with your desires? (Click that link to Tweet it) Given the facts, how could we expect anything different?

Yet the good news is that these facts don’t need to lead us to self-incrimination, self-blame, or beating ourselves up.  No – these facts can allow us to focus on the one true solution to achieving our desires.

Which is:

Taking control of our beliefs; raising our beliefs to match our desires.  Changing our beliefs so that they are beliefs of our choosing, which serve  the attainment of our desires.  Because you (and I) have the freedom to do just that – starting right now!

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your desires…

Why Bad Sushi Can Actually Provide You with Unexpected Opportunities

sushi  I was on the other side of someone’s bad-feeling beliefs the other day.  It wasn’t fun.

My son chose to celebrate his 17th birthday at our (formally) favorite restaurant – hiko-A-mon (A sushi restaurant in Eastern Louisville).

My wife and I were happy with his choice; we had dined there probably thirty times in the last year.  Unfortunately, we can no longer call this place our favorite.

A Special Meal Turned Out to Be Not So Special (But Not Unrepairable)

I called ahead and reserved their special party room and told the restaurant that we were celebrating our son’s birthday that evening.  Both of my son’s grandparents joined us for the party.

As sometimes happens with any restaurant, the experience was not pleasant.

  • It took about forty-five minutes for our food to arrive
  • Some of the orders were wrong or incomplete
  • The food was lacking its normal luster

But, hey, that can happen to any restaurant from time to time, right?

The Owner Got to Be “Right”, But Being Right Cost Him Hundreds of Dollars

Being that we are regular customers and this was a special night, and being a person who believes its better to tell the management when I’m not pleased (rather than walk out and never return), I politely told the owner of hiko-A-mon about the problems that had made our special meal unpleasant.

The owner told me, “Too bad”.

All I really wanted was some recognition and empathy.  And a token deduction from our tab would’ve gone a long way to that end.

When I told the owner of hiko-A-mon that this has been our favorite restaurant and we had dined there many, many times, he was unmoved.  When I told the owner of hiko-A-mon that handling this matter differently would cement us as customers for life, his unfortunate response was “Well, I’m the owner and that’s too bad.”

I was angry, but mostly sad to be honest.  Not just sad that my son’s birthday was a little less special (we made up for that by going out for pie and ice cream later).  Mostly sad that the restaurant’s owner let this opportunity pass him by.

It was like watching a person be handed a nugget of gold and flushing it down the toilet. (Click that link to Tweet it)

I Don’t Like Starting Over Sometimes, But Sometimes I Have To

The scenario, however, ended up reinforcing my belief that there are kernels of opportunity in every circumstance, no matter how undesirable they seem.  The unsatisfactory meal could have been put in our rear view mirror with some simple gestures of kindness by the owner (which we believed we had earned due to our patronage).

In other words, a moment of the owner of hiko-A-mon’s time and empathy (and a few less bucks in his till that evening) would’ve netted him hundreds of dollars in long run.  His instance on being “right” negated a win-win for everyone.

Now we need to find a new favorite restaurant.  Which, I suppose, might be a great opportunity for us. 😉

I invite you to join me in learning from this restaurant owner’s mistake.  Don’t be blinded by bad-feeling beliefs.  Step back today, when the unwanted happens, and seize the opportunity to benefit from the inherent blessing to be found there. (Click that link to Tweet it)

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your desires…

What Can The Croods Teach You About the Value of Doing Things Differently?

croods  Do you know the motto of the Croods?  The animated cave-dwelling family from the recent movie with the same name?

“Don’t ever not be afraid”

The Croods is an inspiring fish-out-of-water story about a cave-dwelling family forced out of their familiar environment.  They live by three simple rules:

  1. Don’t ever do anything new
  2. New is bad
  3. Always do what you’ve always done and you’ll stay alive

Are You a Crood?  Am I?

If you replace the word “alive” with the word “safe”, don’t the Croods’ rules sound familiar(Click that link to Tweet it) I know they do to me.

There is safety in the predictability of what we’ve always done.  Even if what we’ve done is bringing us pain, we often say to ourselves, “Better the familiar pain than the unknown”. (Click that link to Tweet it)

Any human can fall prey to that belief.

After all the unknown is often scary.  We may ask ourselves, “What if the new outcome is even worse?”

Living is, After All, Usually Preferable to Simply Staying Alive

Yet at The Croods’ penultimate moment, the family’s daughter declares, “This is just ‘staying alive’; this isn’t living!”  And, when the Croods’ hand is forced they all end up changing their motto to, “Follow the Light”.

What has forced your hand to follow the light?  Me?  Extreme financial desperation (about eight years ago) forced me out of my “cave”.  I’m now incredibly grateful for that pain, since it was the catalyst (the “loaded gun to my head”, if you will) that forced me to stop “never not being afraid” and follow the light.

Whatever pain forced you from your “cave” and required you to start living (rather than simply staying alive), join me today in taking a moment (or two) to say “Thank you” to the universe for giving it to you.

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms  from quantum physics to align your life with your desires…

How My Newborn Son’s Near-Death Taught Me that We Can Always Choose Gratitude

baby boy   Seventeen years ago this morning, my (then) wife gave birth to our first son.  He was six weeks premature.

I caught a glimpse of him as the nurse whisked him to the delivery room table where the team gets babies breathing.  My wife and I waited, anxious to hold him.

But we heard no cries from our baby.

More nurses began to gather around the table and assist the doctor.  The team’s activity became more frantic; we could hear the concern in their voices.  Minutes passed, seeming like hours, but still we heard no sounds from our baby.

“What’s wrong?”, we began to imploringly ask.  Tears of fear streaming down our faces.

The delivery team was too occupied with working on our son to answer our questions.  Within moments our baby was rushed out of the delivery room and a nurse explained to us that they were unable to get him breathing and were rushing him to the children’s hospital downtown.

We never got to hold him on his birthday.  Let alone see him.

Wipe Your Eyes (I Just Did) and Keep Reading

My son is seventeen years old today.

He spent over a month in that infant intensive care unit.  I aged a year in that month.  And I’m happy to say (given the alternative) that my son has given me plenty more opportunities to prematurely age since March 27th, 1996. 😉

I’m really proud of the thoughtful, open-minded, curious, intelligent, and mature young man my first-born son has grown into.  I’m grateful I’ve had the opportunity to be his father and mentor him.  He’ll always hold a special place in my heart because he is my first child; he made me a father.

It’s been wonderful to have the perspective of what “might have been”, had things turned out differently during my son’s first month of life.  Especially when he does something that gives me a few more gray hairs.  Yet I’m also grateful that I don’t need something so obvious, to feel grateful for, to find gratitude.

(Finding gratitude for being grateful is a very powerful Mobius band, by the way.  I highly recommend it!) (Click that link to Tweet it)

Did You Know You Have a Super-Power?

Yet my gratitude for my son on his birthday reminds me just how powerful gratitude is.  In a universe where our beliefs create our expectations and our expectations create our material reality, building beliefs powered by gratitude forms extraordinary life experiences. (Click that link to Tweet it)

In fact, as I’ve written in an earlier post, gratitude is so effective it’s like a secret super-power.

Is there any life experience where you can’t uncover some inherent gratitude?  I haven’t found one yet. (Click that Link to Tweet it)

Oh, I’ll be the first to admit that I have plenty of life experiences that are undesirable or unwanted.  Things that would be different were I, literally, writing a script.  But even the worst hold kernels of gratitude; in fact, sometimes the worst of them hold the most powerful seeds of gratitude. (Click that link to Tweet it)

Even if only in retrospect.

A Commitment and Willingness to Try is All it Takes

If I’m committed to finding gratitude in all my life’s circumstances, I’ve found that I can eventually find gratitude in even the really undesirable ones.  Because of my previous experiences with finding it there.

As in, I can tell myself this story:

“Although this event is very frightening, feels bad, and is extremely unwanted, I can believe that I’ll be okay, things happen like they’re supposed to, and, in the long run, I will most likely find hidden blessings in these events.  Even if that takes a while, for now I can choose to feel my feelings, resolve to face my fears, and trust that things will be okay.”

Allow Me to Be Presumptuous for a Moment

Am I presumptuous to tell you that you can always choose to tell yourself a story like that one?  What if you’re dealing with the death of a loved one, learning about a frightening diagnosis, or losing your marriage?

No, I am not being presumptuous; I have faced those events myself and told that story.  Things have not always turned out exactly as I wanted, but that story has always proven prophetic  – I have always been okay in the long run and, also in the long run, I have always found hidden blessings in those undesirable events.

Because, over time and with enough telling, that story has become one of my beliefs.

Given the Choice, Why Wouldn’t You Choose Gratitude Over the Alternative?

The stories you tell are, and will always be, your choice.  Even when the events are horribly unwanted.  Google the names of “Viktor Frankl” and “Louie Zamperini” if you want to learn more about people who used this technique under the most wretched situations imaginable and survived (even thrived) – especially as time passed.

Today, as I feel grateful for the gift of seventeen years spent with my son, I hope you, too, find many things to be grateful for.  And I also hope you join me in my commitment to telling stories about all life’s circumstances that allow you to feel gratitude.

You’ll love the material reality those beliefs you build will create.

And Happy Birthday, son!

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your desires…

Why Chewing Flesh is Not Necessary to Create a More Pleasing Reality

Beliefs  Do you believe that you’re chewing the flesh of the dead when you chew gum at night?  I’ll bet you don’t.

Yet in Turkey there are some who believe this.  Are they wrong?

Yes.  And no.

Yes – to you, it is wrong to believe that.

No – to some Turks, it is not wrong to believe that.

I Can Chew Gum at Night If I Want To, Dang It!

What is a belief, after all?  Nothing more than a practiced thought, repeated so many times that it has been cemented into your neural net.

A belief is not independently true.  It is true because you have made it so.  And it doesn’t matter if 99.9% of all the other people on Earth also believe that belief – it is still true because you’ve decided it to be and made it so.

You decided your beliefs are true because someone  you trusted implicitly told you it was true.  And, hence, you repeated the thought until it became a dominant neural path.

Conscious Creators Take Note: Your Beliefs Are Seminal

This is all great news for conscious creators – even if you don’t want to chew dead flesh at night.  If your beliefs are subjective, not true outside of your proclamation of such (unless others also self-proclaim them to be), you can change them to suit you whenever you want. (Click that link to Tweet it)

  • Since your beliefs create your expectations…
  • Since your expectations command the quantum field what to form…
  • Since the quantum field can form everything and anything…

Wouldn’t it behoove a conscious creator to begin raising her beliefs to match her desires?

The universe itself, through the science of quantum physics, gives us the blueprint.  All we have to do it follow it, whether we chew gum at night or not.

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your dreams…

How to Avoid a Common and Potentially Deadly Spiritual Poison

buttons  What pushes your buttons?  What makes you angry?

Me?  Passive aggressive behavior pushes my buttons.  I often react to it with anger and sometimes lash out in “retaliation” without thinking first.

My Buttons Are Easy for The People Closest to Me to See and Push

And guess what?  The people closest to me know this about me (just as I intuitively know what their buttons are).  And those people occasionally employ passive aggression with me when they are, in that moment, feeling angry towards me, frustrated, and/or powerless.

Their choice to exhibit passive aggression is entirely theirs – there is not much I can do about it.  But I can always do something about my response.  And reacting in anger usually makes me feel rotten afterward.

Doesn’t That Person “Deserve” My Anger?

So why, knowing that passive aggression is not “okay” for someone to use against me and knowing that I am “justified” in my anger towards it, would I tell new, better-feeling stories  about it?  Because I don’t want to feel rotten and I am, after all, the only one in control of how I feel (unless I want to surrender that power to someone else).  Feeling rotten does not align me with my desires and acting in anger towards someone does not create a personally pleasing physical reality for me.

When someone pushes my buttons, I can choose to tell a new, better feeling story about it.  I can remember:

  • “The button-pusher is, at that moment, not in a good place; anyone who feels great about himself doesn’t need to resort to that kind of immature, non-effective behavior.”
  • “The scenario where my buttons get pushed by a loved one or acquaintance is, after all, a well-rehearsed dance; the button-pusher and I know the choreography by heart and I am just as responsible for the habitual nature of this dance which has been formed through loads of practice between us.”
  • “Justifying my angry reaction to getting my buttons pushed doesn’t make me feel any better in the long run.  I might get the satisfaction of feeling “right”, but I don’t feel good.  Which is more important to me today?  Being aware of my part in this dysfunctional dance and taking responsibility for it feels much better than the self-righteous satisfaction of being “right”.

Those stories feel so much better than:

  • “I need to yell at this person because he has made me angry with his button-pushing behavior.”
  • “I am justified to be angry and yell at this person; he deserves it damn it.”
  • “I will punish this button person; he will not get away with this behavior”

Taking Responsibility For Myself Is The Antidote to the Poison of Self-Righteous Anger

Knowing that it takes two willing people to dance a familiar dance of button-pushing/anger response, I can choose to stop my part in it and blow out the flame of our conflict.  I can do that by telling myself better-feeling, believable stories like the ones I described previously.  And that feels much better, is a more self-actualized response, and aligns me with my desired outcomes.

Not to mention the fact that, with enough practice at telling myself these new, better-feeling, believable stories, I build new beliefs for myself.  And with these new beliefs, over time, I find myself reacting with anger, towards button-pushing behavior, less and less.

Pretty soon I have far fewer buttons to push!  And that’s a wonderful state of being.

Getting angry at people, especially people I know and love, just doesn’t feel good nor does it serve me.  No matter how profoundly I can justify it.  In fact, “justified” anger is, in my experience, one of the worst spiritual poisons I can drink! (Click that link to Tweet it)

Stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align yourself with your desires more completely than you’d thought possible…