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How Roast Beef Can Teach You to Be a More Powerful Deliberate Creator

roast beef  Here’s a story about how my friend learned to take more responsibility for his own beliefs through roast beef:

My friend, Jeff, watched his new bride prepare the family specialty during their first week of marriage.  Roast beef.

Jennifer rubbed the roast with oil and spices.  Put it  in the pan.  Then, before placing it in the oven, she cut one inch off the front and one inch off the back of the roast.

Jeff asked Jennifer why.  Jennifer replied, “That’s how you make a roast.”

“Strange”, thought Jeff.

Two weeks later, Jeff was at his in-laws home for dinner.  His mother-in-law was preparing a roast.  Jeff watched her rub the roast with oil and spices.  Put it  in the pan.  Then, before placing it in the oven, cut one inch off the front and off the back of the roast.

“I guess that is how you make a roast”, thought Jeff.  But he still thought it odd.

Months later, at a family gathering at Jennifer’s grandmother’s home, Jeff took advantage of the opportunity to observe the family matriarch prepare the delicacy.

Jennifer’s grandmother rubbed the roast with oil and spices.  Put it  in the pan.  Then she put it in the oven.

Jeff said, “Wait a moment, didn’t you forget something?”

“What did I forget, honey?” came the grandmother’s response.

“You forgot to cut an inch off the front and back of the roast”, protested Jeff.

“Oh, I stopped doing that quite a while ago, dear”, said the grandmother.

“Why?”, asked Jeff.

“About four months ago, I bought a bigger pan.”

We’re All Like Jennifer Sometimes – But We Don’t Have to Be

Aren’t we all a little like Jennifer from time to time?  Doing things the way we think we’re “supposed to”?  Just because they are the way we’ve always done them?

Even when they make no sense?  And even when they do not serve us?

Stop being a “Jennifer” today.  Stop cutting the ends off your “roast” and start building new beliefs that serve you today and align you with your desires – by telling yourself the best-feeling, believable stories about all your life’s experiences.

And stay tuned to this blog for more tips and techniques for using new paradigms from quantum physics to align yourself with your dreams and desires…

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How My Newborn Son’s Near-Death Taught Me that We Can Always Choose Gratitude

baby boy   Seventeen years ago this morning, my (then) wife gave birth to our first son.  He was six weeks premature.

I caught a glimpse of him as the nurse whisked him to the delivery room table where the team gets babies breathing.  My wife and I waited, anxious to hold him.

But we heard no cries from our baby.

More nurses began to gather around the table and assist the doctor.  The team’s activity became more frantic; we could hear the concern in their voices.  Minutes passed, seeming like hours, but still we heard no sounds from our baby.

“What’s wrong?”, we began to imploringly ask.  Tears of fear streaming down our faces.

The delivery team was too occupied with working on our son to answer our questions.  Within moments our baby was rushed out of the delivery room and a nurse explained to us that they were unable to get him breathing and were rushing him to the children’s hospital downtown.

We never got to hold him on his birthday.  Let alone see him.

Wipe Your Eyes (I Just Did) and Keep Reading

My son is seventeen years old today.

He spent over a month in that infant intensive care unit.  I aged a year in that month.  And I’m happy to say (given the alternative) that my son has given me plenty more opportunities to prematurely age since March 27th, 1996. 😉

I’m really proud of the thoughtful, open-minded, curious, intelligent, and mature young man my first-born son has grown into.  I’m grateful I’ve had the opportunity to be his father and mentor him.  He’ll always hold a special place in my heart because he is my first child; he made me a father.

It’s been wonderful to have the perspective of what “might have been”, had things turned out differently during my son’s first month of life.  Especially when he does something that gives me a few more gray hairs.  Yet I’m also grateful that I don’t need something so obvious, to feel grateful for, to find gratitude.

(Finding gratitude for being grateful is a very powerful Mobius band, by the way.  I highly recommend it!) (Click that link to Tweet it)

Did You Know You Have a Super-Power?

Yet my gratitude for my son on his birthday reminds me just how powerful gratitude is.  In a universe where our beliefs create our expectations and our expectations create our material reality, building beliefs powered by gratitude forms extraordinary life experiences. (Click that link to Tweet it)

In fact, as I’ve written in an earlier post, gratitude is so effective it’s like a secret super-power.

Is there any life experience where you can’t uncover some inherent gratitude?  I haven’t found one yet. (Click that Link to Tweet it)

Oh, I’ll be the first to admit that I have plenty of life experiences that are undesirable or unwanted.  Things that would be different were I, literally, writing a script.  But even the worst hold kernels of gratitude; in fact, sometimes the worst of them hold the most powerful seeds of gratitude. (Click that link to Tweet it)

Even if only in retrospect.

A Commitment and Willingness to Try is All it Takes

If I’m committed to finding gratitude in all my life’s circumstances, I’ve found that I can eventually find gratitude in even the really undesirable ones.  Because of my previous experiences with finding it there.

As in, I can tell myself this story:

“Although this event is very frightening, feels bad, and is extremely unwanted, I can believe that I’ll be okay, things happen like they’re supposed to, and, in the long run, I will most likely find hidden blessings in these events.  Even if that takes a while, for now I can choose to feel my feelings, resolve to face my fears, and trust that things will be okay.”

Allow Me to Be Presumptuous for a Moment

Am I presumptuous to tell you that you can always choose to tell yourself a story like that one?  What if you’re dealing with the death of a loved one, learning about a frightening diagnosis, or losing your marriage?

No, I am not being presumptuous; I have faced those events myself and told that story.  Things have not always turned out exactly as I wanted, but that story has always proven prophetic  – I have always been okay in the long run and, also in the long run, I have always found hidden blessings in those undesirable events.

Because, over time and with enough telling, that story has become one of my beliefs.

Given the Choice, Why Wouldn’t You Choose Gratitude Over the Alternative?

The stories you tell are, and will always be, your choice.  Even when the events are horribly unwanted.  Google the names of “Viktor Frankl” and “Louie Zamperini” if you want to learn more about people who used this technique under the most wretched situations imaginable and survived (even thrived) – especially as time passed.

Today, as I feel grateful for the gift of seventeen years spent with my son, I hope you, too, find many things to be grateful for.  And I also hope you join me in my commitment to telling stories about all life’s circumstances that allow you to feel gratitude.

You’ll love the material reality those beliefs you build will create.

And Happy Birthday, son!

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your desires…

How to Avoid a Common and Potentially Deadly Spiritual Poison

buttons  What pushes your buttons?  What makes you angry?

Me?  Passive aggressive behavior pushes my buttons.  I often react to it with anger and sometimes lash out in “retaliation” without thinking first.

My Buttons Are Easy for The People Closest to Me to See and Push

And guess what?  The people closest to me know this about me (just as I intuitively know what their buttons are).  And those people occasionally employ passive aggression with me when they are, in that moment, feeling angry towards me, frustrated, and/or powerless.

Their choice to exhibit passive aggression is entirely theirs – there is not much I can do about it.  But I can always do something about my response.  And reacting in anger usually makes me feel rotten afterward.

Doesn’t That Person “Deserve” My Anger?

So why, knowing that passive aggression is not “okay” for someone to use against me and knowing that I am “justified” in my anger towards it, would I tell new, better-feeling stories  about it?  Because I don’t want to feel rotten and I am, after all, the only one in control of how I feel (unless I want to surrender that power to someone else).  Feeling rotten does not align me with my desires and acting in anger towards someone does not create a personally pleasing physical reality for me.

When someone pushes my buttons, I can choose to tell a new, better feeling story about it.  I can remember:

  • “The button-pusher is, at that moment, not in a good place; anyone who feels great about himself doesn’t need to resort to that kind of immature, non-effective behavior.”
  • “The scenario where my buttons get pushed by a loved one or acquaintance is, after all, a well-rehearsed dance; the button-pusher and I know the choreography by heart and I am just as responsible for the habitual nature of this dance which has been formed through loads of practice between us.”
  • “Justifying my angry reaction to getting my buttons pushed doesn’t make me feel any better in the long run.  I might get the satisfaction of feeling “right”, but I don’t feel good.  Which is more important to me today?  Being aware of my part in this dysfunctional dance and taking responsibility for it feels much better than the self-righteous satisfaction of being “right”.

Those stories feel so much better than:

  • “I need to yell at this person because he has made me angry with his button-pushing behavior.”
  • “I am justified to be angry and yell at this person; he deserves it damn it.”
  • “I will punish this button person; he will not get away with this behavior”

Taking Responsibility For Myself Is The Antidote to the Poison of Self-Righteous Anger

Knowing that it takes two willing people to dance a familiar dance of button-pushing/anger response, I can choose to stop my part in it and blow out the flame of our conflict.  I can do that by telling myself better-feeling, believable stories like the ones I described previously.  And that feels much better, is a more self-actualized response, and aligns me with my desired outcomes.

Not to mention the fact that, with enough practice at telling myself these new, better-feeling, believable stories, I build new beliefs for myself.  And with these new beliefs, over time, I find myself reacting with anger, towards button-pushing behavior, less and less.

Pretty soon I have far fewer buttons to push!  And that’s a wonderful state of being.

Getting angry at people, especially people I know and love, just doesn’t feel good nor does it serve me.  No matter how profoundly I can justify it.  In fact, “justified” anger is, in my experience, one of the worst spiritual poisons I can drink! (Click that link to Tweet it)

Stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align yourself with your desires more completely than you’d thought possible…

How a Conscious Creator UnKnowingly Creates Someone Else’s Failures

change  As a conscious creator, how influential can you be?  Can you make someone else be successful?  Conversely, can you make someone fail? (Click that link to Tweet it)

Well…No.  And yes.

You and Your Friend Are, At Your Essence, the Same, But Your Physical Bodies are Unique

Each person is her own, unique time-space event.  Her distinct body serves as a vessel for her consciousness, just as yours’ does for you.  She decides what her beliefs are about herself and what her state of being is.

She creates her own reality, her own universe, just as you do for yourself.

But its also true that there is no such thing as a “detached observer”.  You know…the concept of the scientist watching test subjects while hidden behind a one-way mirror, objectively recording the data she sees?  Doesn’t exist.

Quantum physics tells us, after all, that an observer is just as much a part of the outcomes as the things she is observing. (Click that link to Tweet it) Simply by observing, she, literally, becomes part of the outcome.

Or, to state if more accurately, her expectations become part of the outcome.

“Painting” Someone Doesn’t Work, It Just Makes Them Angry

And when it comes to other people, while we can’t necessarily change them like painting a room a new color, we can change our perceptions and experiences of them.  We can see a different person in our own individual universe (which is a quantum physics concept).

So be careful of the stories you tell about others – especially the important people in your life.  Those stories create your beliefs about them.  Those beliefs create your expectations of them.  And those expectations command the quantum field what to manifest for you to experience.

And, in addition to creating your own personal experiences of another person, your beliefs about her can also affect her beliefs about herself (if she lets them).

You are powerful indeed.  Wield that power wisely!

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to more greatly align your life with your desires…

Why Buttheads Needn’t Pose Any Problems for Deliberate Creators

Butt-head  What about dealing with difficult people?  What do you do when you encounter a butthead? (Click that link to Tweet it) Can you, a deliberate creator, change a butthead into a person who’s more pleasant?

No.  And yes.  Just like with the weather.

Yes, I’m a Butthead Sometimes

I’ll reveal how you can change a butthead like the weather in a moment.  First, though, an important question: are you ever a butthead?

I am.  I’m not proud of those occasions, but I am a butthead sometimes and that brings up a vital point about buttheads.

When I’m a butthead, it’s always because I’m not, in that moment, feeling good about myself.  My self-worth is low.  I’m afraid.  I feel alone.  That’s when I treat people shabbily (or less joyfully than I prefer).

Although It’s Not Fun to Be Around a Butthead, It’s Less Fun to Be One

So what does that tell me about buttheads?

Primarily that the butthead I’m encountering is someone who, in that moment at least, doesn’t like herself very much.  Knowing that doesn’t make the butthead more fun to be around, but it can change my perspective from anger to empathy.

And knowing the cause of “buttheadism”, I am left with an uplifting reminder: would I rather occasionally suffer a butthead or be a butthead? (Click that link to Tweet it) I know what my choice is every time!

A Better-Feeling Story About Buttheads

So now, instead of feeling angry when I encounter a butthead, I have two much better feeling stories I can tell myself – both of which alter my material reality in that moment.

Don’t those stories and the ability to be in control of your state of being (rather than surrendering control to the butthead) actually make you more powerful than the butthead?  In practice, you have just changed that butthead…because you’ve taken away her power over you.

Try those stories the next time you’re around someone acting like a jerk.  I just hope you aren’t using them on me!

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques for using new paradigms from quantum physics to align your material reality with your desires…

What Do Bad Feelings Mean for a Deliberate Creator?

Feelings  Do you have days when you’re feeling down or bad?  Sometimes for seemingly no real reason at all?

I do.

Getting dressed yesterday, my brain was telling me:

  • “You’re a fraud, Greg”
  • “No one will buy your books!”
  • “Who do you think you are?  You’re a nobody”

My (Sometimes) Grumpy Brain Occasionally Wishes It Still Had Control Over My State of Being

Those were my feelings yesterday morning.  Those also happen to be some of the beliefs I used to have – so I’m well acquainted with those feelings.  They used to be some of my habitual patterns of thought.  I told myself those stories repeatedly for years until they had become some of my “truths”.

Until I learned how and why to use new paradigms from quantum physics to build new beliefs.

And I’ve been using those new paradigms, telling myself better-feeling stories, for over five years now.  Technically, what I’ve been doing is telling myself the best-feeling, believable stories possible for over five years.  Just what I teach you to do in my Why Quantum Physicists… series of books.

While I’m Not Supposed to Be “In Control” of My Feelings (They Simply Are What They Are), I Am In Control of My Beliefs

Hence, my beliefs have changed.  Converse to my feelings yesterday, which I still feel from time to time, I now believe:

  • “I am immensely worthwhile”
  • “People love my books.  Because they are written with an infusion of love for you and an extreme desire to uplift and enhance your life”
  • “I am an amazing and valuable person – just as I believe you to be”

So, today, when I have those bad feelings I described earlier, I simply acknowledge and validate them.  They are temporary; they are not my state of being and do not reflect my new, true beliefs about myself.  They also no longer frighten me because I know they are not my beliefs unless I choose to make them so by repeating and believing them.

Bad Feelings No Longer Form Links In An Unbreakable and Binding Chain

I know that feelings aren’t meant to be stuffed or denied.  They are meant to be felt.  And depersonalized.  And doing that takes away their power; they are no longer links in an unbreakable chain.  My feelings are simply my feelings – I am in charge of what my beliefs are. And I take charge of my beliefs via the best-feeling, believable stories I tell myself each day. (Click those links to Tweet them)

So yesterday, although they weren’t wonderful, I simply felt those feelings and acknowledged them.  And I also felt a warm glow of confidence that my beliefs are still, and always, my choiceI choose to have beliefs today which align me with my desires. (Click that link to Tweet it) And I choose to be in charge of those beliefs through the stories I tell myself each day.

How about you?

Stay tuned to this blog for more techniques for using new paradigms from quantum physics…

Why Creating Your Own Reality is Like Driving a Stick-Shift

Gearshift  We recently got a manual transmission car.  It’s the first one I’ve owned since 1993, although I drove nothing but stick-shifts during my first decade as a driver.

I’ve been reminded, thus, about how much conscious effort it can take to drive a stick-shift (as opposed to driving an automatic transmission).  At first, that is.  And then, with repeated driving, it becomes as automatic as…well, driving an automatic.

Telling New Stories Takes Concerted Effort For a While

Changing your beliefs works the same way.  For a while, telling new, better-feeling stories about all of your life experiences takes a real, conscious effort.  It’s a radical departure, after all, from your old, “auto-pilot” habit of simply accepting conventional wisdom and labeling so much of your life as “bad”.

As you probably know, when you begin driving a clutch (or reacquaint yourself with doing so), you have to pay close attention to your speed and the revving of the engine to ensure you’re shifting at appropriate times.  It’s work.  But, over the course of time, your ears become so accustomed to the engine’s whine that you begin to shift gears without having to consciously think about it.

Taken one step further, the familiar routes you drive (to the grocery store or to work, for example) become so habitual that your muscle memory gets trained to shift subconsciously at certain points along the drive (not accounting for varied traffic density, of course).

You’re Now Driving Your Stick-Shift on Auto-Pilot

You’ve practiced enough, you see, that your gear shifting is now being done unconsciously.  What once took your conscious concentration is now occurring within your subconscious and now takes no more effort than driving your automatic transmission.

You’re Soon Be Creating Your Improved Reality on Auto-Pilot Too

Creating new beliefs and relying on those new beliefs to create a material reality more closely aligned with your desires works the same way.  At first it does take your conscious effort and focus to tell new, better feeling stories which build new beliefs for you.  But…  With practice, your new stories and attending perspectives start to become second-nature – they happen unconsciously after enough practice.  (Click that link to Tweet it)

Your spiritual and mental “muscle memory” has been trained.

Stay tuned to this blog, of course, for more techniques for using new paradigms from quantum physics to create a more pleasing reality…