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How My Newborn Son’s Near-Death Taught Me that We Can Always Choose Gratitude

baby boy   Seventeen years ago this morning, my (then) wife gave birth to our first son.  He was six weeks premature.

I caught a glimpse of him as the nurse whisked him to the delivery room table where the team gets babies breathing.  My wife and I waited, anxious to hold him.

But we heard no cries from our baby.

More nurses began to gather around the table and assist the doctor.  The team’s activity became more frantic; we could hear the concern in their voices.  Minutes passed, seeming like hours, but still we heard no sounds from our baby.

“What’s wrong?”, we began to imploringly ask.  Tears of fear streaming down our faces.

The delivery team was too occupied with working on our son to answer our questions.  Within moments our baby was rushed out of the delivery room and a nurse explained to us that they were unable to get him breathing and were rushing him to the children’s hospital downtown.

We never got to hold him on his birthday.  Let alone see him.

Wipe Your Eyes (I Just Did) and Keep Reading

My son is seventeen years old today.

He spent over a month in that infant intensive care unit.  I aged a year in that month.  And I’m happy to say (given the alternative) that my son has given me plenty more opportunities to prematurely age since March 27th, 1996. 😉

I’m really proud of the thoughtful, open-minded, curious, intelligent, and mature young man my first-born son has grown into.  I’m grateful I’ve had the opportunity to be his father and mentor him.  He’ll always hold a special place in my heart because he is my first child; he made me a father.

It’s been wonderful to have the perspective of what “might have been”, had things turned out differently during my son’s first month of life.  Especially when he does something that gives me a few more gray hairs.  Yet I’m also grateful that I don’t need something so obvious, to feel grateful for, to find gratitude.

(Finding gratitude for being grateful is a very powerful Mobius band, by the way.  I highly recommend it!) (Click that link to Tweet it)

Did You Know You Have a Super-Power?

Yet my gratitude for my son on his birthday reminds me just how powerful gratitude is.  In a universe where our beliefs create our expectations and our expectations create our material reality, building beliefs powered by gratitude forms extraordinary life experiences. (Click that link to Tweet it)

In fact, as I’ve written in an earlier post, gratitude is so effective it’s like a secret super-power.

Is there any life experience where you can’t uncover some inherent gratitude?  I haven’t found one yet. (Click that Link to Tweet it)

Oh, I’ll be the first to admit that I have plenty of life experiences that are undesirable or unwanted.  Things that would be different were I, literally, writing a script.  But even the worst hold kernels of gratitude; in fact, sometimes the worst of them hold the most powerful seeds of gratitude. (Click that link to Tweet it)

Even if only in retrospect.

A Commitment and Willingness to Try is All it Takes

If I’m committed to finding gratitude in all my life’s circumstances, I’ve found that I can eventually find gratitude in even the really undesirable ones.  Because of my previous experiences with finding it there.

As in, I can tell myself this story:

“Although this event is very frightening, feels bad, and is extremely unwanted, I can believe that I’ll be okay, things happen like they’re supposed to, and, in the long run, I will most likely find hidden blessings in these events.  Even if that takes a while, for now I can choose to feel my feelings, resolve to face my fears, and trust that things will be okay.”

Allow Me to Be Presumptuous for a Moment

Am I presumptuous to tell you that you can always choose to tell yourself a story like that one?  What if you’re dealing with the death of a loved one, learning about a frightening diagnosis, or losing your marriage?

No, I am not being presumptuous; I have faced those events myself and told that story.  Things have not always turned out exactly as I wanted, but that story has always proven prophetic  – I have always been okay in the long run and, also in the long run, I have always found hidden blessings in those undesirable events.

Because, over time and with enough telling, that story has become one of my beliefs.

Given the Choice, Why Wouldn’t You Choose Gratitude Over the Alternative?

The stories you tell are, and will always be, your choice.  Even when the events are horribly unwanted.  Google the names of “Viktor Frankl” and “Louie Zamperini” if you want to learn more about people who used this technique under the most wretched situations imaginable and survived (even thrived) – especially as time passed.

Today, as I feel grateful for the gift of seventeen years spent with my son, I hope you, too, find many things to be grateful for.  And I also hope you join me in my commitment to telling stories about all life’s circumstances that allow you to feel gratitude.

You’ll love the material reality those beliefs you build will create.

And Happy Birthday, son!

And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques to use new paradigms from quantum physics to align your life with your desires…

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Thanksgiving Reminds Us of the Most Powerful Game We Can Ever Play

  On Thanksgiving we’re reminded to be grateful.  What a wonderful holiday.

Yet I often find that gratitude is one of the most underutilized, and most incredibly powerful tools, for changing our life and manifesting desirable experiences.

A New Car?  You Bet I’m Grateful!

Most of us can find gratitude for the “big” stuff – our spouse, children, the unexpected influx of cash, the promotion, etc.

But who made the rule that you can’t be grateful for anything?  Especially for the things you normally take for granted!  Just because you normally take something for granted, after all, doesn’t mean it’s not worthy of your gratitude!

Taking breaths, a functioning brain, sunshine, life in all its glorious abundance surrounding you, electricity, and your innate creativity are all examples of things you can feel grateful for right now.  If you choose to do so.

And I’ll add one more biggie (that we often take for granted): our unlimited potential to be amazing creators!  Even if you’re just learning to harness your awesome power or even if you don’t always use it to its fullest extent, why not choose to be grateful for this incredible ability you were born with?

Make A Game Out of It; See How Many Things You Can Find to Be Grateful For Today

The best thing about being grateful for something is, of course, that thing will grow and expand right before your eyes.  And when you’re feeling grateful for the “little” things (those things you normally take for granted), the massive power of gratitude’s energy will grow and expand other wonderful things in your life too.

Take a cue from our Thanksgiving holiday today and make it your business to find as many things as you can to be grateful for.  Make a game out of it and see just how many things you’ve overlooked that you can be grateful for.  You’ll be reminded, once again, just how empowering that state of being is for your creative abilities!

Is Vanilla Sky the Best Movie About Deliberately Creating Your Own Reality?

  Is Vanilla Sky the best film illustrating the power you have to create your own reality?  Here’s a case for that claim.  A word of warning though: if you haven’t yet watched Vanilla Sky, this blog post is full of spoilers.

Vanilla Sky is a 2001 film starring Tom Cruise as an ultra-wealthy playboy named David Aames.  Aames is the head of a large publishing firm in New York City and the film chronicles, through a series of bizarre twists and unexplainable events, the unsettling destruction of his life of wealth and privilege.  Aames is disfigured in a gruesome automobile accident, has his publishing company taken from his control, loses the love of his life, and eventually commits a murder.

David Aames Heads a Multi-Million Dollar Publishing Company, But He Discovers His True Calling is “Architecture”

What puts Vanilla Sky near the top of movies about deliberate creation, however, is the appearance of a mysterious stranger (played by Noah Taylor) two-thirds into the film.  In the midst of Aames’ descent into complete ruin, this man tries to help Aames by talking to him in a bar one night, attempting to reveal the truth of deliberate creation – but only succeeds in frightening him.  Eventually, however, when he finally hits rock bottom near the end of Vanilla Sky (fueled by his state of complete and utter desperation), Aames consents to listen to this stranger.

The mysterious stranger explains that Aames is actually in the middle of a lucid dream and he has, in fact, had complete control over his life all along.  Aames discovers that he had actually chosen to be put into a cryonic sleep 150 years ago, until a cure could be discovered to keep him from dying from a drug overdose.  In his cryonic sleep, Aames has been the sole architect of his entire “dream” life – not only his experiences of incredible wealth, but also his horrific downfall.

Like Aames, All of Us Who Are Awake to Our Power of Creation Became So By Finally Listening to Our “Mysterious Stranger”

The stranger’s revelations to Aames are a picture perfect portrayal of what it was like for many of us when we finally became willing to learn and accept that we create our own reality.  The mysterious stranger who becomes Aames’ guide is an apt metaphor for any number of teachers who help awaken people from their sleepwalking life and realize their ultimate creative power and dominion over their personal experiences.

Whether Esther Hicks, Wayne Dyer, Deepak Chopra, Doreen Banaszak, Marleen Keys, or Matthew O’Grady (some people who helped me awaken and continue to help me stay awake), like Aames, we usually only become open to such teachers when we have hit a “bottom”.  When there was nothing left to lose, except the pain of living our lives the way we always had.  And as you have undoubtedly done, once awakened, Aames embraces the freedom his new awareness about deliberate creation gives him to create better experiences from that point forward.

Perhaps, like Aames, you once ran away from the truth – clinging to your painful, yet familiar, paradigms and beliefs.  But when the pain of doing things the same old way outweighed your fear of doing things a new way, you opened your mind, listened, learned, and took flight.

Vanilla Sky Can Fill a Deliberate Creator with Immense Gratitude

It is interesting to watch Vanilla Sky a second time and empathize with Aames’ complete dismay as his life crumbles around him, and his feelings of being victimized, because it can remind us of what our life was like before we became awakened and began to create our reality intentionally.  I’ve watched the film numerous times and it not only motivates me to remain awakened, but even fills me with gratitude for the painful experiences I endured that finally made me willing to learn the secrets of deliberate creation I now practice and teach.

Being grateful for the pain I suffered, because it made me willing to change, is an amazingly positive perspective which further reinforces my positive neural pathways of habitual thought.

On an uplifting note, Vanilla Sky ends with Aames embracing freedom and choosing life in all its uncertainly and unpredictability rather than remaining a sleeper.  Although Vanilla Sky doesn’t portray the rest of his life, I like to think that the remainder of Aames days are spent like yours – as a deliberate creator of his life experiences who lives a life much more closely aligned with his desires.

Please let me know what you think.

Your Secret Super Power and How It Can Change Your Reality (and Help You Lose Unwanted Weight) Almost Instantly

  Ever play a fun game that I’ve played with friends, where you all get to choose one super power to have?

Super speed, super strength, x-ray vision, and indestructibility are always popular options.  I always choose having the ability to fly, ’cause I could always avoid traffic.

But what if you really could have a super power – in real life?  What if you could have the super power of consistently getting more of what you want out of life?  Not because of “luck”, but on purpose and intentionally?  Manifesting your desires, such as, but not limited to, losing your unwanted weight?

Guess what?  I can teach you to have this super power.  It’s simpler to acquire than you might imagine and you can begin using it immediately to lose your unwanted weight (and just about anything else you desire).

“Wonder-Twin Powers…Activate!”

To acquire this wonderful super power you only need to do one thing: make it your primary purpose, just for today, to be grateful as much as humanly possible.

Sound too simple?  Sound crazy?  I can understand your reaction, but my instructions for acquiring this amazing super power are actually rooted in the very real and reliable science of quantum physics.

Why You See What You See and Experience What You Experience in Life

Let me explain.

In our universe, reality is completely subjective.  You’ve read on my blog that quantum physicists tell us that each observer sees her own, unique universe (and that is meant to be taken literally, not figuratively).   You, literally, see your own unique version of the material world (which, of course, includes your physical body); the material world you see is wholly (and only) yours and is “reality” only for you.

And quantum physics tell us that we create our unique reality not just through our observations, but, more importantly, through our expectations.  And our expectations are created from our beliefs.

Your New Super Power is Already Inside You, Simply Waiting for You to Unleash it Today

Since you now know how your material reality (including your physical body) is created, isn’t it an easy, logical conclusion to see that if you improve, or “upgrade”, your beliefs you will automatically see a different, improved-version of your reality?  I hope so, because this is scientifically true.

Try it today.  Find reasons to be truly grateful for as many things as you can – even the things you usually take for granted, like breathing, your ability to drive a car, your sense of humor, your wonderful mind, etc.  And especially the things you commonly label “unwanted” experiences – by looking for the hidden gifts and opportunities inherent in them (hint…they are there if you’re willing to look for them and are open to see them).

And stay tuned to my book and this blog for ever continuing tips and techniques to finally lose your unwanted weight using the life-changing science of quantum physics…