What about dealing with difficult people? What do you do when you encounter a butthead? (Click that link to Tweet it) Can you, a deliberate creator, change a butthead into a person who’s more pleasant?
No. And yes. Just like with the weather.
Yes, I’m a Butthead Sometimes
I’ll reveal how you can change a butthead like the weather in a moment. First, though, an important question: are you ever a butthead?
I am. I’m not proud of those occasions, but I am a butthead sometimes and that brings up a vital point about buttheads.
When I’m a butthead, it’s always because I’m not, in that moment, feeling good about myself. My self-worth is low. I’m afraid. I feel alone. That’s when I treat people shabbily (or less joyfully than I prefer).
Although It’s Not Fun to Be Around a Butthead, It’s Less Fun to Be One
So what does that tell me about buttheads?
Primarily that the butthead I’m encountering is someone who, in that moment at least, doesn’t like herself very much. Knowing that doesn’t make the butthead more fun to be around, but it can change my perspective from anger to empathy.
And knowing the cause of “buttheadism”, I am left with an uplifting reminder: would I rather occasionally suffer a butthead or be a butthead? (Click that link to Tweet it) I know what my choice is every time!
A Better-Feeling Story About Buttheads
So now, instead of feeling angry when I encounter a butthead, I have two much better feeling stories I can tell myself – both of which alter my material reality in that moment.
- “I feel empathy toward this person who, at least in this moment, doesn’t like herself”
- “Although I’m not necessarily happy to be interacting with this butthead, I’m grateful to be encountering one instead of being one myself” (Click that link to Tweet it)
Don’t those stories and the ability to be in control of your state of being (rather than surrendering control to the butthead) actually make you more powerful than the butthead? In practice, you have just changed that butthead…because you’ve taken away her power over you.
Try those stories the next time you’re around someone acting like a jerk. I just hope you aren’t using them on me!
And stay tuned to this blog for more techniques for using new paradigms from quantum physics to align your material reality with your desires…