Did the stewed okra catch your eye? Fill your plate with lima beans? Take two huge servings of brussel sprouts?
Of course not. While you probably didn’t load your plate with nothing but bacon, pastries, and banana pudding, I’ll bet you focused on foods you enjoy.
Isn’t It Wonderful to Skip the Brussel Sprouts?
Isn’t that the appeal of a buffet, after all? You have the freedom to choose – and skip over what you don’t enjoy in favor of what you like and want.
Aren’t we lucky then, that each day we’re alive is a buffet? With each moment, we are offered the same freedom to choose. To choose to tell ourselves stories about (assign meaning to) our life that feel bad and keep us separated from the experiences we desire. Or to tell stories that feel good and align us with the experiences we want.
No, you don’t necessarily have choice over all your actual experiences; picking and choosing each experience you have is not what makes life a buffet, because most of us don’t have that much influence no matter how long we’ve practiced creating our own reality. What makes life a buffet is the choice you have regarding the story you tell about (the meaning you assign to) each life experience.
You Don’t Have to Pretend to Like Anything to Take Advantage of Life’s Buffet
Does this mean that you should pretend to like things you don’t? Perhaps you aren’t thrilled to be mopping the kitchen floor or you’re not excited to be staying late at the office to finish some paperwork – should you be acting like you’re loading your plate with tasty roast beef from the buffet line?
But alternatively, do you have to say, “Mopping the floor sucks and I hate this!” or “I am so mad I’m here at the office late and this has ruined my evening!”? Who made those rules? And why do you often act as if you have to follow them?
Life is a buffet because you get to chose the stories you tell. Why not say, “Although I’m not necessarily overjoyed to be mopping this floor, I am glad that my family and I will get to enjoy a clean kitchen” or “Maybe I’d rather be doing something other than this paperwork right now, but I am grateful I have this job and I feel good about doing it well.”
Given the abundant choices surrounding you today, try these kinds of stories and see what an amazing difference they make. And stay tuned to this blog for more about how to tell new stories and create a more desirable reality…